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Back from The Looking Glass
Kim and Steve Cooper

 

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The Love Safety Net Workbook
Kim and Steve Cooper

 

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Emotional Stupidity
Kim Cooper

 

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“Do you give your best to the people close to you?

Or do you expect them to accept your very worst? 

Do you display strength, patience and self control

with those you love, making them feel safe and valued by you?

Or do you expect your family to tolerate and support your weakest character traits (and exhaustion) while you give more of your best to your friends and your work?” 


Is home even where you really want to be?


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True happiness and success are built from the inside out ...  if you want to live joyously with others, the first person you must have a good relationship with is yourself!


So stop and ask yourself right now; are you truly at peace with yourself?


Are there things you are not proud of that you try hard not to think about? If so I wonder what in your life might need to change for you to find inner peace?

Exercises


  1. 1.Imagine losing everything you have right now, including your health ... imagine being stuck in a hospital bed with nothing but yourself and your own thoughts to live with. Do this now for at least 2 minutes ...


I wonder could you live peacefully with yourself? Or are there thoughts about yourself and your life that would not give you rest?

Subscription to The Love Safety Net is $9.95 for your first month and $12.95 each month thereafter. We will continue to send you new information and updates regularly.

You may unsubscribe at any time after your first payment.

You will receive the next installment titled  ‘Love Part 1’ and continuing articles, short movies and radio shows around every 3 days once you subscribe ...

Because it is only by being at peace with ourselves that we can ever be at peace with anyone else in our life, and likewise the health of all of our relationships can be determined by the health of the relationships we nurture with those closest to home.

And the reverse is also true ...


If our home life is sweet, we will enjoy it’s sanctuary from all the various troubles in the outer world.

So who do we have around us to model a happy home life on? The Simpsons or other dysfunctional families on TV? The humor of these programs fades if there are no healthy families present in our lives to compare these characters with. Where do children learn correct behavior if all they experience at home is dysfunction and all they see is satire on TV?

Learning to understand our own personal strengths and weaknesses while giving honest attention to the gaps in our development will help us mature into stronger team players, ready to support those in our family with less self awareness.


The steps and advice you will be challenged with in this series of articles and movies cannot all be tackled and mastered at once. This work must be taken one step at a time.

You will also need to forgive yourself and chart your progress honestly.


1. Do you blow up at your kids in unhealthy ways?

2. Do you make unreasonable demands that your partner take responsibility for your feelings?

Look honestly at these questions right now.


How often has this happened in the past and how often does it happening now?


If these episodes are becoming less frequent, you are doing well.

Learning to regulate your emotions and practice new emotional responses is like exercise; every time you do it you get stronger and better at it. It will be difficult and will even feel unnatural at first, but like driving a car, the new behavior will eventually become second nature and step by step you can move on to bigger and better goals.

Picture yourself now as part of a family where you are known and loved and where all of the members are respected and growing to their full potential and what it would really be like to be part of that right now...

We must each find the courage to look at the worst in ourselves if will ever have the courage to achieve our best.

I hope that you enjoy the steps in our ebooks and that you will also decide to subscribe to The Love Safety Net and receive ongoing support. The ideas that we present can and do work and if you are at all like Steve or myself, the reward for your efforts may be beyond what you now believe possible ... these ideas are not academic but are ideas that need to be put into action to work ...

Now from this place I then want you to ask yourself what in your life needs to change? 


  1. 2.Think about your relationships with those closest to you. Without blaming anyone or anything, just answer the question; Are they healthy and happy or is there disappointment and discord?

If your closest relationships are unhappy there are relationship skills you probably need to learn. What would it feel like to have better relationships? What will happen if you keep blaming these problems on someone else?

There is a saying on the farm that if there are weeds at the back door there will be weeds right out to the fence ...

Indeed all the truly good things in life come from the inner sanctuary of a solid and happy home life and if our closest relationships are difficult or sour, then success in other areas won’t ever make our life sweet. 

There are many things to distract us from having solid and healthy relationships with our family, but nothing that will replace its value in our life. There is also nothing the world needs more right now than stable and functional families and one healthy family can even act as an anchor and positive example for a whole community.

If your home is currently troubled - will the restoration of peace and respect begin with you? And if not with who? Because remember it must start from the inside out and if your family is dysfunctional, stability can be rebuilt, but it will only happen one member at a time.

This feeling will give you the motivation to do the work that is ahead of you including facing the not so pleasant job of examining your own worst behavior.

  1. 3.Imagine being known and loved by your family and all of its members. Then imagine each member being respected and appreciated and each of you growing to your full potential...


  3. Really feel what it would be like to be part of this right now ...

Remember that it is this feeling that will continue to inspire you to change your habits and do the work