Jealousy
Movie transcript
Hi welcome to the Love Safety Net Love Boat cruise
I hope you have your seasick tablets because we are riding the emotional storms at present and this show is about the green eyed monster Jealousy.
Kim - Jealousy is a terrible emotion and like seasickness it can strike without warning and make you feel so ill that you wonder if it will ever pass?
Kim - What purpose can this awful emotion possible have?
Steve - What is Jealousy for?
Kim - Well the relationships in our life are valuable. They keep us safe in many ways and they are a part of everything that is valuable, worthwhile and enjoyable in life so it makes sense that we want to protect them.
So jealousy can be a way that we get warning when our relationships may be in danger from competition.
If this is the case we do need to take decisive action to ensure that our attachment with our partner or even perhaps with our children is secure and that no one is actively or unknowingly seducing our loved ones away from their attachment to their family.
If jealousy is something that you experience very often or inappropriately it can mean that you are lacking healthy skills in attaching to those close to you.
We have a section and exercises on attachment in The Love Safety Net Workbook - but one of the most simple and effective ways of strengthening this attachment is to make sure you greet your family members warmly by name every time you see them, even when you may be displeased with them.
Don't bring up things you are unhappy about until you see that your partner is listening and feeling good towards you and then be courteous and to the point and have a positive solution to offer.
This is just one way of building attachment and there are many more.
A unhealthy way to attach is to talk about someone or something you both dislike. It is far better if you can explore things you both enjoy than get in the habit of putting others down.
Jealousy can also be a sign that you have low self worth.
We have a range of audio products that will help with this but for starters it is important that you realise that true self worth comes from within.
If you feel inadequate or worthless because of how someone else mistreats you or you need others praising you to feel good this might also be a sign that your self worth is low.
Finish the sentence
I am .....
and see what great things you can say about yourself and about who you are.
If you have problems with this then maybe you need to do some work on this
Kim - I used to feel jealous a lot
Steve - And I used to feel jealous all the time.
Steve - I used to feel jealous that other people were better than me and had more than me
and I was jealous of other peoples happiness too.
I am so glad that we got through all that and we are sailing on smooth seas now.
Work on building healthier attachments and your self worth and jealousy will be a thing of the past for you too.
Thanks for joining us on this leg of the love safety net love boat cruise.
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